I don't normally do chatty posts on here nor do I talk about anything too personal, normally i'm a bit too shy/worried to share anything more personal than what my favourite lipstick is or current favourite clothing item is but I actually love talking about anything and everything... and I think I have a lot to say, so surely my blog is the best place to share it?!
I'm not gonna get all Carrie Bradshaw on you now. I'm not qualified in giving advice but i'm not necessarily going to do that. I am going to ramble. Ramble ramble ramble as I do in general, but try and make some sense of it, or improve my writing skills from it, maybe trigger conversation topics that will maybe relate to you too. Or not. And if not, it's good therapy for me to write it all out and look back on it, like a lil diary.
I've been thinking a lot lately about going out of your comfort zone and doing things that normally you'd be too afraid to do yet still fearing the unknown (dundundunnnn).
I'm a creature of habit/home bird and I like some sort of routine in my life but at the same time, I couldn't think of anything worse than being stuck doing the same thing over and over again, ie: in the same place, doing the same job, living in the same place etc. I just know I would go mad, or hate myself for it. I like being comfortable but my worst nightmare is looking back on my life and thinking I just stayed put where I was because I wanted to be comfortable and safe. Yet, I'm really sensitive towards change and leaving what I know. Since i've moved about quite a fair bit in my life so far, I thought, yeah I've got this whole change thing hacked, whatevz, i'll do anything. But there's still always constantly a part of me that gets attached to what I already know. I've been in Liverpool two years, and I know by the time I end university I may need or want to move on, but then i'm like - nooo I can't leave here, i'm happy, Liverpool might disappear and i'll never see it again! Bit over dramatic but you get the jist. So how do you go about trying to go out of your comfort zone all the time, when you're a lil bit scared of change? (I don't actually have an answer to that, that was completely rhetorical)
I think an important thing to do is face something everyday that scares you a little, just to push yourself that little bit further. It might even sound weird but I actually love doing something i'm scared of, I don't know why - I just get something out of it. Before I even get the chance to make up excuses and overthink myself out of something, I will literally say yes before I even know what i've just agreed to do, sometimes riskaay, sometimes not. And then when it gets to the point of that event, maybe booking tickets to go travelling on your own, joining a sports team, applying for a job, going to a party, whatever it is - you just do it, and then as I always say, i'll just cross that bridge when I get to it. And 99% of the time this actually works for me. I get told i'm confident a lot which I find funny because I don't really see myself this way at all - but I guess i'm quite good at acting confident and then eventually from acting it, I eventually become it.
Other times i've pushed myself out of my comfort zone was when I decided i'd go and be an au pair this year, which I have never done before, and going to a new city on my own. Yaa ya give me a medal, whatever. I'm just saying that for people that are shy or find it hard to break out of their comfort zone, then it's not actually too hard and it will do the world of good for your confidence. Maybe this is something that I've gained from being at uni, or age, I really don't know but you can both move out of your comfort zone gradually whilst being a little bit scared of it at the same time. Sooner or later the unknown will not phase you anymore, and you will prefer change over staying the same.
I don't believe people are supposed to stay the same throughout their life. We are supposed to evolve and develop our confidence/personalities etc over time. I think if you sense you are getting too comfortable and too stuck in your ways, and it isn't getting you anywhere or making you happier, then by saying yes to opportunities that make your tummy flip a little, then it's your body telling you that you need to go for it.